According to a publication on the Psycholog Today website, the semantics of parental reactions in tense moments can either exacerbate conflict or alleviate the situation. However, it is important to remember that even a simple expression can ease a child's anger at any age. "I see that you are upset right now... and I am here for you." This seemingly simple suggestion, in fact, carries deep psychological impact.
It is important for parents to remain calm and avoid immediately transitioning to corrective measures, such as "calm down" or "stop reacting so strongly." The aforementioned suggestion reinforces to children that you are with them and encourage calmness. This is a call for communication instead of control.
There are several tips on how to effectively use this suggestion: stay calm, use gentle gestures, give children time, and continue communication when they are ready.
This suggestion does not immediately stop a child's anger, but it creates a foundation for trust and open communication. It acknowledges children’s feelings, calms them down, and creates a space for calmness without fear of judgment or control.
Parents' reactions have a huge influence on the resolution or alleviation of tension in a situation.
